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Should I Quit My Job?

Published On: February 4, 2019, Last Modified On: January 22, 2024, Author: Amy Sanchez

At some point in your career, you’ll reach a point when you’re at the end of a rapidly fraying rope. And all you want to do is tell everyone off.  And you may have visions of quitting and walking out in a blaze of glory. You will find yourself asking the same question again and again i.e., "Should I quit my job?"

First off, you likely have every right to feel the way you do.  But I don’t want you to continue to suffer because of that person or situation that continues to plague you. If you do decide to quit, I want you to consider your emotions but make the decision with your exceptional reasoning powers.  There are times when quitting is the right thing to do. You must often be finding yourself asking 'I hate my job what should I do?'. But there are also times when it may hurt you more than help you.

It's important to acknowledge and validate your emotions when dealing with a person or situation that has been causing you distress. Feeling frustrated, hurt, or overwhelmed is a natural response, and you have every right to experience those emotions. However, it's equally important not to let those emotions continue to negatively impact your well-being.

When considering whether to quit or persevere, it's crucial to engage both your emotions and your exceptional reasoning powers. Emotions can provide valuable insights into your overall happiness, satisfaction, and personal boundaries. They can guide you toward making decisions that prioritize your mental and emotional health.

However, it's equally essential to balance emotions with rational thinking. Take time to reflect on the potential consequences of quitting and evaluate whether they align with your long-term goals and aspirations. Sometimes, quitting can offer relief and open new doors for personal growth and fulfillment. Other times, it may have adverse effects, such as missed opportunities or a sense of regret.

Consider seeking perspective from trusted friends, mentors, or professionals who can provide objective insights. They can help you weigh the pros and cons of quitting versus persevering in a particular situation. Ultimately, the decision should be based on a thoughtful evaluation of the overall impact on your well-being, growth, and future prospects.

Remember, quitting isn't always a sign of weakness. It can be an act of self-care and self-preservation, demonstrating your commitment to your own happiness and fulfillment. However, it's crucial to approach the decision with a balanced mindset, taking into account both your emotions and your ability to reason.

No matter the outcome, remember that you have the power to shape your own path. By considering your emotions and employing your exceptional reasoning powers, you can make a decision that serves your best interests and promotes your long-term well-being.

Signs I Should Quit My Job / How Can I Tell When it's Time to Quit?

Let’s break this down. Scroll to the challenge that is causing your misery

Challenging Boss, Team or Co-Worker

Have you tried to resolve the source of conflict?

No- try to find a way to find a way to get on the same page

Yes

Is there a management change in site?

No- Ask for a “new opportunity.”  If the frustration with your boss is reaching a critical point and you can’t wait for the change to come (or if that’s unlikely because you work for a small company), it may be time to look for a new job.

Yes- If you’re able to, hang on and give your new boss a chance.

The Schedule is Grueling

Are there obligations that are self-imposed but not necessary to success?

Yes- take time to identify the "must-attend" vs. "nice to attend" and cut back on the latter. If you're traveling too much, find ways to leverage technology to reduce travel.

No

Can you remove items from your plate?

Yes-

No- This would be a good time to sit down and think about what's most important to you. Is it collecting a paycheck to cover expenses? Is it more time to devote to your personal life? Is it climbing the ladder? Once you become clear on what's important, structure your life accordingly. If the work load you are being asked to manage is unrealistic and in clear conflict with your top priorities, it may be time to look for a new job.

You Are Under-Appreciated

If you're getting paid less or stuck at a level lower than those with the same amount of experience, it's time to think about your next move.

Have you made it clear that you want a raise/promotion?

No- Your needs may not be known. Don't be afraid to share your expectations with management.

Yes- If you agreed to a timeline after which your performance would be evaluated and a decision about a raise/promotion would be made, revisit this conversation with your boss. If these conversations are fruitless, it may be time to brush up your resume and start networking. If you get an offer, you can leverage it to get what you want at your current job. Or find a new role where your contributions are appropriately recognized.

The Work is Not a Match

If you find yourself under-stimulated or not using the skills that you would like in the role you're in, lift up your head and start to evaluate.

Have you requested a new challenge?

No- If you're under-stimulated, focus on a few small wins and follow them up with a request to try something different. If you're in a role that doesn't match your skillset, you may be under-performing, which can be tricky when asking for a new challenge. This may be a good time to highlight your past achievements and ask for a personality assessment to help your boss see the mismatch. You must first establish that this isn't related to motivation but rather, that your potential will be fully realized in a role that aligns better with your natural skillset.

Yes- if you've continued to demonstrate success in your current role, you've had the conversation with management about wanting a new challenge and a substantial amount of time has passed with no movement in sight, it may be time to use your smarts to look elsewhere.

Something Else is Bothering Me

If I haven't addressed your grievance in the above, a good rule of thumb is to evaluate if you can, in a professional manner, request a change to your current situation. Gauge the reaction to your request and if you don't sense that the pin in your side is going to be removed anytime soon, you may want to see what else is out there. Learning about other opportunities can often lead to clarity about what you really want to do.

If the previous suggestions haven't adequately addressed your grievance, it can be helpful to consider requesting a change in your current situation in a professional manner. Evaluating the response to your request can provide valuable insights into the willingness of others to address your concerns.

Pay attention to how your request is received and whether there is a genuine effort to address the issue. If you sense that the discomfort or dissatisfaction you feel is unlikely to be resolved in a timely or satisfactory manner, it might be worth exploring other opportunities.

Taking the time to learn about alternative options can provide clarity and perspective on what you truly desire. Researching different paths and potential career opportunities can broaden your understanding of what is available and help you identify a direction that aligns with your aspirations and values.

Keep in mind that exploring other opportunities doesn't necessarily mean immediately leaving your current position. It's a process of gathering information and gaining a deeper understanding of what options are available to you. This exploration can empower you to make informed decisions about your career and future path.

Engaging in networking activities, reaching out to industry professionals, or seeking guidance from career coaches can be valuable resources during this period of exploration. They can offer insights, advice, and support as you navigate the process of finding clarity and determining the best course of action for your professional growth and fulfillment.

Prevent a Career-Limiting Move

Whatever you do, be sure to approach the thing that is bothering you EARLY and with PROFESSIONALISM. When we are stuck in a stressful situation for too long, we do have the tendency to let our emotions take the steering wheel.

You want to be the one in control of your own destiny without any regrets. Bottom line: there are times when quitting is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. And there are times when you need to ride out the challenges around you, reflect on what you can learn from the experience, and find ways to cope until things get better (wine and chocolate help). Don't forget, this experience is likely a small chapter in your long book of life. As the saying goes, "this too shall pass." And if it doesn't or you just can't take it anymore, you may be surprised by all the doors that start opening when you start looking.

Taking control of your own destiny and living without regrets is a powerful aspiration. Ultimately, you are the author of your life's story, and making decisions that align with your well-being and happiness is crucial. Sometimes, quitting is indeed the best thing you can do for yourself.

However, it's important to recognize that challenges are an inevitable part of life. There may be situations where persevering through difficulties, reflecting on the lessons they offer, and finding healthy coping mechanisms becomes necessary. During these times, it can be helpful to seek solace in small pleasures like wine and chocolate, allowing yourself moments of respite amidst the storm.

Remember, the current situation you find yourself in is likely just a small chapter in the broader narrative of your life. This perspective can bring a sense of relief and reassurance that even the most challenging circumstances will eventually pass. Drawing strength from the belief that better days lie ahead can provide the resilience needed to endure and overcome.

If the challenges persist or become unbearable, it may be worth considering alternative paths. Sometimes, when you actively start looking for opportunities and open yourself to new possibilities, unexpected doors begin to open. Embracing change and being open to new experiences can lead to surprising and rewarding outcomes.

Ultimately, the choice between quitting and persevering depends on your unique circumstances, values, and aspirations. It's essential to trust your intuition and make decisions that align with your long-term well-being. Remember, you have the power to shape your own path and create a future that brings you fulfillment and happiness.

As you navigate through the different chapters of your life, embrace the opportunities for growth, learn from both successes and setbacks, and seek the support and resources that can guide you on your journey. By doing so, you can confidently step forward, make choices that empower you, and create a life that aligns with your true desires.

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About The Author

Leadership Consultant and Coach Amy Sanchez

Amy Sanchez is a certified executive and career coach located in the Bay Area who specializes in helping mid- to senior-level executives achieve their full potential and build the lives they want.

She has an MBA from USC’s Marshall School of Business and 13 years of corporate experience.

She is a skilled coach and neutral partner who provides clients with tangible tools and effective guidance to successfully navigate the waters of this fast-paced, hyper-connected, high-stakes job market.

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